Signs To Tell If A Guy Likes You?

I know I am being paranoid again but I really dislike this intense feeling of crush. I wanted to know if the guy I met last Friday likes me during our meeting so I did a bit of research on the most common topic - How to tell if a guy likes you?

Answer: http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_are_signs_a_guy_likes_you_that_you_might_be_missing

Ok, so I am happy that I hit a few points discussed in the above link:
* The very first time we saw each other, I caught him turning away slightly when our eyes met.
* F makes fun and tease the place I live as ULU (isolated).
* He kept acting silly infront of me with his exaggerated actions which resulted me in LOL.
* He is so apologetic throughout the meeting as in so afraid of offending me.
* He is so honest with the things I questioned including his personal life.
* He displayed slight dismay when I commented that his friends are cute.
* He never leave me alone and hang out with hs friends.
* He noticed my leather shoes and actually commented that they are made of crocodile skin and looked moisturizing unlike the skin on his elbow? It is a statement which I seriously don't know how to take it.
* He showed me due respect - when his friends commented on a bunch of girls being 'elder sisters', he turned to me saying I am one to them too because I am older than them by a year old. However, he recovered the statement with but she is my peer =)

I finally plucked up my courage to SMS him. He replied in a pretty fast manner but his statements I can't really relate back as they are close-ended answers.

It begins like this:
S: Heyhey, hows ur monday so far =)
F: sian loh...in lec now... Do project later...
S: Haha.. Ok you are always filled with projects..
F: Yup...thats my life at the moment... Sad
S: Don't be sad... Once after your exams you have got dec holidays! LoLz.
F: :) thanks for your encouragement
S: No problem! Jia you... I shant disturb you already =)

I must thank Joan for encouraging me to SMS in this manner because the usual me will end when he said the 'thanks for your encourgaement' but she said just make it casual about not disturbing him anymore. That last sentence did make the whole episode ends in more perfect way. I am feeling alot less pressurized and as Joan as mentioned I already did my part of showing interest in him so if he still doesn't contact me again then it is really over. At least I tried which I am indeed happy about my efforts. No regrets. Thanks Joan!

I met another Mr Taurean.

I am horoscope-fanatic. It may be kind of startling for people who just know me because I have the tendency to ask them the question: "What is your horoscope?", out of nowhere. This guy whom I knew from the online website WLNY sent me a message and we exchanged MSN. Before I knew it, we talked on the phone. He has a nice name beginning with F and he actually called me SN - my chinese name.

We talked on the phone on Thursday, 26/10/07 twice. Once in the afternoon when I am so bored travelling from the West to the North-East. The other is in the midnight when he wanted to tell me about his meeting with a chick whom his best gf has hooked for him. We actually spoke for 2-3 hours both times. He told me if it is based solely on the phone-relationship, he would have treated me as his gf because I sounded so nice and sweet. I kept telling him I am different in reality.

On Friday, 27/10/07, we decided to meet up. The interesting part is I thought its supposed to be 'we' but in the end he brought along two other guy friends. Ok I must admit the two other guys are very interesting people too. We met for dinner at The Musselicious. He ordered mussels and we shared a plate of grilled chicken with sausages together. I am very fascinated by his two friends because both of them have very interesting personality. Both are equally tall and well-built, say 1.75m at least while F is about 1.70m and slim. WX is the guy who plays the reserve for S-League while S is the chef. WX has a cute froggy coin pouch which he used to entertain himself like by feeding the frog with coins. It is such an adorable sight especially to see a 22 years old guy with a cute item. WX hops and jumps around when he is walking which makes him appeared to be a happy kid. S is a totally different guy. He looked so serious and mature which gives people the feeling that he can be relied on.

As for F, that day he seemed to be so inconfident of himself infront of me. Maybe I am over-reacting again but he did bombard me with alot awkward questions: Do you think I look very kiddish with this casual dressing? Is my hair ugly? In the phone and real person, which is better? I should wear long sleeves and pants for you to see that I can be formal too! I told him straight that why is he so not confident and he replied that he merely wanted an opinion from another person.

The trio is so heart-warming, from their conversation to the way they behave, every sight of them makes me laugh. I have not feel such light-heartedness for such a long time meeting online people. Initially I rejected the idea of going OBAR with them because I expected awkwardness but incredibily in the end I was the one who asked F if I could join them! F graciously accepted my request so we went to find his car. This is totally a surprise. I thought he owns a Ford Focus which is black in colour but the one which he is driving is actually Lexus RX. I almost fainted because I have never taken a ride on such an expensive luxury car - approx. $150k and above.

It was so entertaining in the car. F switched his music to his fav. techno songs and he actually demonstrated how to dance with these songs. He was driving with big actions like hands off the steering wheel and the techno music is played so loud. The funny part was when the song - Moonlight Shadow came to tune, he immediately open the top of the car to reveal a black sky. He said no moon but has shadow? I find him amusing in his crappiness. We did not go to OBAR because S wasn't dress appropriately so they settled for bowling in the East. He said he has to reject the invitation by the chick he met so he asked S to reply to her that he was caught in a jam - Johor to Sentosa. Everyone was giving F the unbelievable look! F seems to always tease me about living in Woodlands like so ulu and mentioned the terms 'Causeway' and 'Johor' several times in his conversation.

F drove us to National Service Resort & Country Club which is around Changi Airport to play bowling. The trio are so professional in this sport that they all own an individual bowling ball each. I watched them played all the time because I am so inexperienced. F was such a nice guy as he would come to talk to me everytime he bowled finished a round. I like the part when F strikes, he would not only give his buddies high-five but also included me. I feel so part of their team. They played till 1.30am so we left for home. F has to drop me and S somewhere near Bedok because we live outside the East area. F felt so guilty that he said, "SN, I owed you one!" I was telling him it is really ok. His friends teased him by saying how come you never treat us like that? By the way, F asked me alot weird questions during bowling: Am I the most interesting online guy you met? How are the other online guys like? Are there any handsome online guys you met? What do you do on your weekends?

F was also very apologetic throughout the day like kept saying sorry for making me wait, sorry for the change in plans, sorry for not being able to send me home etc. I got so sick of assuring him that I am ok with all the above mentioned.

In the final car journey, F actually posed such a surprising question in the car. He asked infront of his friends what do I think of S in terms of looks? I said ok and F was like ok only? Then S immediately asked then what do you think of F? I said ok also, what am I supposed to say? F now said what about the cute WX which I told him. Again, I said ok. I seriously wonder what does he expect me to say infront of them. The questions he asked are so abrupt. I went home by taxi which caused me an amazing $27.90 inclusive of midnight surcharge! Anyway he did message me: Hey thanks for today. Hope you enjoyed yourself. I replied: Its fun meeting you and yupz thanks for introducing your friends too. All 3 of you are an interesting bunch of guys.. Hee. No reply afterthat.

I don't know what he is thinking and expecting from me. He has forgotten about our smiley pact. From my past experiences, all the happy and enthusiastic meetings often result in nothing more. Even I 'think' the people whom I met seemed to show some fancy to me during the meet-up, after which there would be no further contact. Perhaps F would be the same case so I am only giving him 3 days to respond. If he did not, then it is over.

Just for his sake, I am posting my answer now: =) =) and yes I have a crush on F!

Money can't buy Love but it can buy one night of Dreams.

I am 23 years old this year. Never has a formal date with a guy before and constantly feel insecure with my looks, personality and surroundings.

I am not a professional clubber because I can't dance well nor a good drinker. Clubbing has become my solution to my innermost desire - Love or rather the feeling of being wanted. The best part is that I don't have any friends who are kind enough to accompany to the club. I am desperate. I want to know cool and happening guys which are evident not in my current lifestyle. In the end, I went to club with my most gorgeous sister. She is so attractive just like honey attracting bees in the club. At least 5 guys will approach her but of course all 5 of them will be rejected. Although they did not approach me and obviously showed only one way interest in my sister, I learn how to smile at their loser-ness.

I went to my regular club on Sat. night and this white polo shirt guy caught my eye. My sister was so nice that she actually acted like she wanted to dance with my target's friend so that I will have a chance to dance with him. Her efforts did not go down the drain because I did dance with him and we made many short funny conversations. He asked for my number and I gave him. Everything seemed so well and perfect. We danced together and he kept smiling, so smiley that I almost fall in love with his smiles (even in the darkness, he seemed so bright!) He told me that he feels the stress because he has never dance with a girl before and he is shy.

My poor sister was stucked with my target's friend which she would never have even bothered if it is not for my sake.

After dancing with me for some time, he said he want to leave for a while. The very last time which I saw him was at the barcounter. He looked dazed. Anyway, my sister and I decided to go off before them. It was 3.30am and when we were at a nearby 7-Eleven store, I realized that there is this unknown number which I missed twice. I called back and it was him. He asked where were we and I told my exact spot. He actually replied that it was so far off? He continued asking if we were on a cab and when I said no, he just mentioned that to call him when we reached home safely. By the way, he has a car.

The last contact with him was me sending an SMS to him saying: "Nice meeting you.. hope you reach home safely too =)". He replied that he is having supper with his friend now and goodnight and sleep well. Today, I am totally disappointed. He did not even message me today though he has my number! From my observations, those guys who got my sister's number in the club, they will message her the very next day with some lame message: "Good Morning" or something to show their interest. Nothing from him at all. I have been waiting and by this time when I am blogging, I guessed it's over just like a Dream.

I seriously wonder if I should message him or not but I still believe that if you are interested in someone, you will take action so perhaps to him, it was just a fling. So why did he even bother to ask for my number and be so sweet and smiley to make me all soft and mellow when the end-result is so disappointing?

I paid for this Dream and yes I did wanted attention. I got his attention for a night but that's the end of story. Why can't this Dream become a Reality soon?

1 Waterfall makes my Night in DBL O =)

It has been a long time since I went clubbing... yesterday I went to watch Jolin's Dancing Diva Concert and I must agreed she is a great performer in terms of singing and dancing. She is very particular with the audience's reaction and especially sarcastic with Singaporeans - laid-backness. Jolin is a virgo, hardworking in achieving her aim - a perfectionist.

Then the moment came. My sister and I decided to go club at DBL O - Retro Party w cover charge of $15 each excluding drinks. Initially I was skeptically of my luck in club as no one has broke my record of getting my number yet. We got ourselves a Barcadi Freezer Peach each and went to the dance floor to chill. Dancing is a good form of exercise and caused us to be so hot. LoLz. We decided to get ourselves a one-for-one cocktail 'Waterfall'. The drink is on fire and I drank it fast. Taste like burning Hex sweet syrup in your throat. For a while later, I become HIGH and energetic.

We were dancing together then a couple of guys came over to break our peace. I was relaxed so I actually went to dance with them. A sexy dance, I would say... but somehow still a distance away from each other. A guy in black by the name of A, came over to know my sister, and I begin to notice his two other striped friends. Nonetheless, they didn't approach me =(

I continued to dance with the super enthusiastic uncle till awkwardness came over me. Fortunately, my sister's guy came to pull me out of the situation. So here I was, with a new crowd of guys.

Then one of the striped guys spoke to me in my ear: 'Do you know the guy?'

I replied 'No' and he showed me the disgusted look on the dancing uncle. We both laughed.

I was thirsty so I brought my sister to the bar to order Tequila Shots. I became even worst - HIGH but conscious and very giddy. I stood at the bar for some time to calm down and in the end I actually talked to that striped shirt guy - ZF. I was literally pointing at him and saying, 'What's your horoscope?' Scorpio is the answer. We began our intimate talk, so close, face-to-face, almost leaning on each other. He said he is from Hong Kong and showed me his blue foreign IC. He is a total crapper. ZF was telling that this is his 1st time clubbing... I don't believe his nonsense.

Then after some time, he held my hand to the dance floor and we danced. At first, close dance but we just get more and more involved till we were practically hugging each other. Mainly touching, if we wanted, we can kiss too. I didn't realize my potential to be so open with guys. The only reason I am willing to play with him till this extent is because he got the looks, personality, height and built. By the way, he dragged me higher on the platform and I fell, making him fall too. My sister and her guy friend were all wowed by our unexpected actions. ZF loves to use his hands to blind my eyes whenever he teases me. What a weird action!

We took A's car for prata in Serangoon near ZF's private house. During the ride, he was mentioning whether his friend (girl) has reached home safely. I kept quiet and he asked if I am jealous. Then he kept insisting to see my IC which I stubbornly refused. ZF ordered 1 egg, 1 plain + 1 cheese. I was impressed with his immense appetite.

The other striped guy is HY and he is a Taurean too. Very typical one. I like his realness and honesty. He is always left out because ZF with me, my sister with A. I realized HY is sincere as in he will ask questions about me and my life. He even observed my watch and started to ask the brand for it. The next cute question: 'You like bling bling?' Haha... yeahz that's my style =)

When A has dropped ZF off, I asked HY for his MSN. He was like a young school boy, so eager to please and excited by my question. I really appreciate his as a matter of fact attitude.

Today, A already msged my sister but ZF has not even do anything. I must admit I am disappointed. Anyway, maybe it is just a black dream which seems so real....

My Ideal Boyfriend

What I am looking for...

1. He must be at least 1.75m tall
2. Medium-sized build
3. Smooth skin without pimples/scars
4. Double eyelids
5. No big nose
6. Does not smoke, drinks on occasion
7. No tattoos and vulgarities
8. Well to do background
9. Must be illiterate with a certain level of education
10. Sensitive to my needs
11. No sweet talks (mushy)
12. Must be knowledgeable
13. Independent
14. Does not flirt, all guys 'guy'
15. Has a decent and good pay job

Am I asking for too much? LoLz. Anyone interested for an interview with me?

What a Taurean will do...

你离开的刹那，如果他爱你，

火象星座会说：不要走。
风象星座会说：不要丢下我。
水象星座会上前拉住你。
土象星座会眼睁睁的看着你离去。

他不爱，不挽留，他爱，也不挽留。
爱与不爱在土象星座的心里竟然拧成了一个结局。
他们大多矛盾，隐忍，过于执着，自以为是。
许多感情在短时间他们完全发现不了，一定要等到时过境迁才长嘘短叹。

他们总以为很多际遇可以反复，很多情感可以重来，很多人可以在大街上不断遇见，总以为世界像一个童话故事般可以随意撰写，殊不知很多事，很多人错过了就是永远。

土象星座习惯拒绝，习惯放弃，习惯无动于衷。
情感中他们总是被动的一方，然而又经常承受不了对方的主动，所以他们可能会有很多的暧昧关系，然而却很难找到一份爱情，一个伴侣，因为那些坚定不移的感情，需要同样坚定不移的挽留，然而，他们不懂。

他们不懂，为什么每次面对离别，都不知道自己该做什么。
他们不懂，为什么原本属于自己的爱情，就这样莫名其妙的变成了似是而非的情感。
他们不懂，为什么身边的人竟这样飘然而去，不在自己的世界驻留。
他们不懂，为什么手机里存满了暧昧短信，却找不到一句直接的I LOVE YOU。

因为，他们不挽留，不是给的不够多，而是永远不知道对方要什么。

The Story of Love - 爱的真谛

By chance, I came across these meaningful sentences:

爱情是一种遇见.
在对的时间, 对的地点, 遇见对的人, 发生对的事.

佛说爱情
当爱情到了一定程度的时候，会在不知不觉中转变为亲情.
你会逐渐将她看作你生命中的一部分，这样就会多了一些宽容和谅解.
只有亲情才是你从诞生伊始上天就安排好的，也是你别无选择的，

普通爱情
爱是因为相互欣赏而开始的.
因为心动而相恋.
因为互相离不开而结婚.
没有人值得你流泪, 值得让你这么做的人不会让你哭.
失去某人, 并不可怕, 最糟糕的莫过于, 他近在身旁,却犹如远在天边.
对于世界而言, 你是一个人; 但是对于某个人, 你是他的整个世界.
在遇到梦中人之前, 上天也许会安排我们先遇到别的人.
在我们终于遇见心仪的人时, 便应当心存感激.

莎士比亚说的爱情
爱是一种甜蜜的痛苦, 真诚的爱情永不是一条平坦的道路的.
我承认天底下再没有比爱情的责罚更痛苦的, 也没有比服侍它更快乐的事.
爱情就像是生长在悬崖上的一朵花, 想要摘就必需要有勇气.

距离的爱情
世界上最遥远的距离, 不是生与死, 而是我就站在你的面前, 你却不知道我爱你.
世界上最遥远的距离, 是明明知道彼此相爱, 却不能在一起.
世界上最遥远的距离, 是明明无法抵挡这股思念, 却还是故意装着丝毫没有把你放在心里.
世界上最遥远的距离是, 用自己冷漠的心对爱你的人, 掘了一条无法跨越的沟渠.

月老给的爱情
每个人在出生的时候，脚上都系着一根看不见的红线.
而有缘的人呢，月下老人就会把他们脚上的线连在一起.
不管这两个人走多远，不管遇上什么磕绊，不管是隔着千山万水，都还是会走到一起.....

在对的时间, 遇见对的人, 是一生幸福.
在对的时间, 遇见错的人, 是一场心伤.
在错的时间, 遇见错的人, 是一段荒唐.
在错的时间, 遇见对的人, 是一阵叹息.

爱从一个微笑开始.
爱一个不爱你的人是痛苦的.
爱一个人却没有勇气让他明了, 你的心是更痛苦的．

不要期待得到爱，慢慢的等待你的爱在他的心中生根发芽.
即使不会，你也当满足，因为你心中已有了一片爱的绿洲．
生命中最悲哀的事莫过于放弃追逐你所爱的人，看着他远离．

I want to be loved but I need to learn how to love others first.